Category: pain
Many of you have asked about my 10 year old daughter and her health.
On November 30th, about an hour after dinner, she started complaining that her stomach hurt. From there it escalated into full blown wailing and crying. Holding her belly, screaming that her belly hurt. Her stomach was puffed out. She was like this for most of the night, then felt better by lunchtime. We chalked it up to perhaps constipation (not something she has ever struggled with, but there had been more bagels in her diet in November than ever before, so – who knows?)
However, two days later it all started up again and never stopped. She couldn’t go to school, she was barely sleeping. When she did sleep, she would toss & turn, and moan.
She wasn’t sick before all this began in any way. Nor during this time has she ever spiked a fever, had nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, or a rash of any sort. She isn’t a sickly kid in general. And she still had an appetite. Eating food would bring on more pain, though, so we had to adjust how and when she ate.
We went to the emergency room FIVE times. Yes, five times. With two overnight stays. Not knowing what was happening, wondering if her appendix were leaking toxic fluid into her system. A twist in her bowel? A telescoping of intestines? Obstruction? Diverticulitis?
All tests, ultrasounds, and x-rays came back normal. Parasite test, negative. (they are doing that one over again, though) No one could find what was wrong with her. The GI specialists at Children’s Hospital in Boston best guess? A virus came and went with no outward symptoms but left her GI system weak and unable to function properly. Post infection IBS is the name they gave it.
What can you do for such acute pain? Well, you can’t give pain meds. True pain meds slow down bowel function. Anti-spasmodics do not seem to do much. We do quite of bit of intervention for her to keep things, um, moving for her. How much fun is that for a 10 year old girl? Answer: not much! But she’s been a trouper.
She is always in some sort of pain or discomfort, some times more manageable than others. She can be playing outside, reading a book, watching tv, then – bam! Howling in pain. And that can go on for hours. It’s like having a newborn with colic. We would take turns staying up with her, rubbing her back or belly, holding her, until 1,2 in the morning waiting for her to pass out from exhaustion.
The doctors all said she would be better soon but that hasn’t been the case. She can be curled up in a heap for hours howling in pain. She hasn’t been to school in three weeks. Sleep is a challenge. She looks worn out, understandably.
Our visits with the GI Fellow at Children’s Hospital in Boston – one of the best in the world, right? -left us frustrated because we felt many issues were not being addressed in a timely manner and our GI Fellow (a doctor that has completed their residency and is taking a year or more to specialize in a field, and can act as a stand in for the attending in some cases) was too cavalier about the whole thing. “She’s too sensitive. Put her in a hot bath. That works for 75% of my patients.” What the hell? I wanted to ask him if his 4 year old child screamed for 8+ hours a day for a month and he was told to just stick the child in a hot bath, would he say – sounds good! She can’t sit in a bath for hours each day. I do give her hot water bottles and heating pads for pain, though she says she doesn’t feel any relief. During our last visit he poked around on her upper back and said she was tight, tense. He tried to ‘massage’ her shoulders and she yelped out in pain. He said “clearly she is overly sensitive to stimulus and maybe accu-pressure or massage would be helpful”. I asked her later about it – she said “It felt like he was pinching me in the shoulders! I don’t like massage!” I do not happen to like it either.
During one stay they had to do a complete GI clean out. If that sounds awful, it is. A tube through her nose delivering medicine into her stomach that will expel the entire contents of her gut over the course of several hours. They gave her ativan anti-anxiety medicine to calm her down enough to get the tube down her nose. That went all right until the medicine then had the reverse effect on her and she revved up into a high anxiety mess. Between her painful gut, the forced contractions from the medicine to clean her out, exhaustion from so many days of no sleep plus it was late at night and she had not eaten since 11 am. She was a crying, screaming, snotty, poopy mess with a tube down her nose and an IV in her arm. We would try and keep her from pulling her tube out and that would frustrate her further, elevating her anxiety. (The nurse told us this was all a reaction from the meds). Getting her to and from the toilet with all these tubes you had to bring with you, wheeling in the IV behind her – and trying to capture all the poop so they can observe it…well – holy shit. Truly. I must give my husband the Dad/Spouse of the Year Award because just as all that shit was going down, around midnight – he sent me home. He said “I got this, you need some sleep, only one of us can man this process effectively. Go home, sleep in, drive Max to school, then come relieve me.” I love that man!
(The good thing about the ativan? She doesn’t remember most of the worst of the clean out. Which took about 10-11 hours.)
Also, the next morning when I took over, her bottom was so raw and painful I asked the nurse for packets of Vaseline. Then with rubber gloves, after every bowel movement I would coat her anus in it and all the surrounding skin that was clearly affected, to help ease the pain of constantly pooping and wiping (with toilet paper that was like tree bark). I also took washcloths soaked in water, microwaved them to a warm temperature and would clean her bottom thoroughly every other time. I do not understand why it isn’t standard operating procedure to instruct the parents from the start to do this. A good part of her screaming was a result of the burning pain of her injured, broken skin as well as the tense anticipation of how much it was going to hurt when she did have to dash to the loo. I told the round of residents with the attending doctor when they came to check on her about how they should instruct the parents to do the Vaseline thing and got a “um, ok, we will take that under advisement”. And a bit of an amused look.
So one would think – that clean out was two weeks into this mess, we were admitted as in-patient at the hospital – wouldn’t that be the perfect time to scope her? Nope, they want to wait until it is a MONTH into this before doing that. However – at the one month mark, this week – it takes almost TWO WEEKS to get on the endoscopy schedule! What the hell people? You should have put the paperwork scope request in two weeks ago, let me schedule it, then we can CANCEL the appointment if she is better!
She will get an endoscopy later next week. We only got that appointment AFTER both my husband and I called the pediatrician and started hollering. They first scheduled us on January 9th, then they rescheduled for the 5th. Even they had to agree that there wasn’t enough being done and that we should put in a complaint. Which we plan on doing. And they recommended we get a second opinion, which we did today at Mass General hospital. They want to do more tests to make sure we aren’t missing something.
Her blood tests came back negative for celiacs disease, but we have her on a gluten/dairy free diet right now to see if that might help.
She has an appointment with an acupuncturist on Tuesday for pain management. We are getting second opinions and a whole new panel of tests done at Mass General Hospital to make sure nothing has been missed.
One thing I do want to note: every GI doctor we have seen (residents, fellows, attendings) at both Children’s in Boston and Mass General, emphasize the need for probiotics on a daily basis. Yes, probiotics. Especially during a time like this, they explained, when the flora in the gut is off, your GI system needs all the extra help it can get. I am a huge fan of probiotics and have given them to my kids for almost two years so I felt validated when I heard this. Probiotics are beneficial bacteria to help boost your immune system and balance out the good and bad bacteria levels in your intestines. They put my daughter on Flagyl, which is an industrial strength anti-biotic (“If she starts to lose feeling in her hands or feet, stop taking them.” Whoa. OK.) so they told me to make sure and stick with a steady dose of probiotics. No problem!
(Hey, don’t say “if you have given your kids probiotics for two years why is her GI system so out of whack right now? I do not know, I am trying to figure it out! No supplement can do it all 100% of the time, ok? She hadn’t been sick in a long time before this. Shit happens!)
They also recommended peppermint oil, noting that the oil can relax the bowel walls. I love peppermint oil for many reasons, good to know the word is out on it’s healing properties. I wish I could say my daughter found comfort from taking them, but she did not. My son did get some relief from a stomach ache with a peppermint capsule. And really fresh breath, a nice side effect of it.
You know, last month I wrote about a friend of mine who lost his son Ellis McClane on November 11 of this year in a car accident. He said:
In the instant I learned that my son had died, it became crystal clear what is truly important in life and what is trivial bullshit. Most of it is trivial bullshit.
Well, I have to tell you, I have been reminded of this as well, though I am fortunate enough to still have my child.
Thanks to everyone who has reached out with advice, well wishes and sympathy. Our immediate family has been there for us so much, I can’t thank them enough. Her school has been great about sending home her work and calling often to see how she is doing.
So, while we sort the whole thing out, I don’t know how often I can come back and post, but I will try and update when I have a free moment.
Don’t count me out. I am not gone for good, you know. Right now, though, I can’t be Live Green Mom. These days, I’m just…Mom.
Last week I went to Austin, Texas, to see my sister and her lovely twin boys (almost a year old!) and attend a wedding. My husband Adam’s buddy was getting married and he was the best man. Double the fun!
Thursday night was so much fun, my sister got a sitter, and her husband, Adam and I went out for a big fat delicious dinner of Mexican food at Trudy’s. We were talking about our kids and how, now that we are parents, awful news stories about children jump out at us. My sister finally had to stop herself from reading these stories, too upsetting. Now that we have kids, we are so much more vulnerable. These stories are reminders that something bad can happen to anyone at anytime, including ourselves. We finally had to change the subject. Downer dinner talk!
I’m an active woman. I take care of an acre of land, I clean my house, I take care of my kids. Learning how to ride a unicycle. I run 15-18 miles a week. Or at least I used to…until!
Sometime this past September I hurt my back. I have no clue how I did it. It just starting hurting – alot. But not constantly. On and off. A few days of severe pain, and then a week of ‘just fine’. I didn’t get it, what set it off, or what made it better.
I’m no stranger to back pain.
In September 1997 I was crossing a street at a busy intersection, and a car came flying around the corner and almost hit me. I threw myself out of the way, sort of a flinging, twisting motion. Probably kind of silly looking. I didn’t get hit, and the car went on its way. I felt a *pop* in my back. The next day I was in so much pain. If you have back pain, you know this pain. After months of pain, I had an MRI, revealing a ruptured a disc in my neck and back. I had a little physical therapy and after a year, I was fine. Occasionally I dealt with pain, but it was under control. Nothing some Advil couldn’t help.
So, I had an MRI right before Thanksgiving and it showed a herniated disc in my neck and low back. Bummer!
The spine doctor prescribed physical therapy (which I started in January after the holidays) and pain meds. Alieve, Hydrocodone, and cyclobenzaprine. Cyclobenzaprine is an anti-depressant. An anti-depressant! The doc explains that the off label/secondary use for this med is as a muscle relaxant. I did not want to get started taking that for my pain. I do not like to be altered mentally. I have been drunk twice in my life. No I am not kidding.
So I would take large amounts of Advil and Alieve, anti-inflammatories, to help get me through the day. Alieve, 500 mg sometimes twice a day, and Advil, 600-800 mg sometimes twice a day. That is way too much for an extended period of time, but what choice did I have? I would even have a dose sitting by my bed with a glass of water and a banana (don’t take these products without food in your stomach!) to take in the middle of the night so I would be able to get up and get the children going to school.
My dad and step mom were here from Germany for 3 weeks in October. They pulled out a small bottle of peppermint oil and explained that they take it with them everywhere for a myriad of uses. My stepmother rubbed some of it on my neck, and would you believe, I felt a cooling/warm sense of relief and refreshment. And I smelled delish!
The relief I felt is based on the fact that peppermint oil is a counter stimulant or counter irritant. You have been practicing counter stimulation if you have ever rubbed your child’s head when they bumped it – the feeling of the rubbing overrides the sensation of the pain. Think about the nurse who gives your child a shot, then rubs it and makes it ‘all better’.
There are several products on the market that provide the same effect as peppermint oil. Ben Gay, Icy Hot, Mineral Ice, to name a few. But they smell like ass. I don’t want to smell like ass. I have already been through that. And I wasn’t sure about all the ingredients in those products.
Turns out peppermint oil has quite a few uses. Such as:
- A few drops in water can help with gas, bloating, nausea, cramping and stomach upset. Mint tea is an good option.
- Rubbed on the forehead or temples, it can relieve headache tension.
- Muscle tension and pain relief – like I mentioned before, and the it increases the blood flow to the area of injury. Increased blood flow aids in healing, bonus!
- Help alleviate stress and general tension.
- It can help alleviate motion sickness
- Scientifically proven to ease irritable bowel syndrome.
- It doesn’t smell like ass.
There are many more uses for peppermint oil, just Google it.
I picked up a bottle of organic peppermint oil at Whole Foods for about $8. A bargain! It was nice to be able to get through some days without the use of over-the-counter meds, give my body a break.
I also like Tiger Balm, which works the same way as peppermint oil. But my husband hates the smell and scoots far away from me when I have it on. There are different strengths and sometimes I need something a bit more heavy duty. Also available at Whole Foods. (They have it all, don’t they?)
I must forewarn you (TMI alert!)
I highly recommend you do NOT apply peppermint oil or Tiger Balm until AFTER you have put in your contacts, put in a tampon, wiped after a visit to the loo, if you can help it. I have done all three. Holy moly, my bits were on fiyah! I told my husband my va-jay-jay was burning and his interest perked until I explained what was going on. No sexy.
Just so you know, my back is doing much better.
